Family stories grow to be bigger than the experiences themselves, writes Judy Goldman in her memoir, Losing My Sister They become home to us, tell us who we are, who we want to be Over the years, they take on and embellishments and adornments until they eclipse the actual memory They become our past just as a snapshot will, at first, enhance a memory, then Family stories grow to be bigger than the experiences themselves, writes Judy Goldman in her memoir, Losing My Sister They become home to us, tell us who we are, who we want to be Over the years, they take on and embellishments and adornments until they eclipse the actual memory They become our past just as a snapshot will, at first, enhance a memory, then replace it As she remembers it now, Goldman s was an idyllic childhood, charmed even, filled with parental love and sisterly confidences Growing up in Rock Hill, South Carolina, Judy and her older sister, Brenda, did everything together Though it was clear from an early age that their personalities were very different Judy was the sweet one, Brenda, the strong one , they continued to be fairly inseparable into adulthood.But the love between sisters is complex Though Judy and Brenda remained close, Goldman recalls struggling to break free of her prescribed role as the agreeable little sister and to assert herself even as she built her own life and started a family.The sisters relationship became further strained by the illnesses and deaths of their parents, and later, by the discovery that each had tumors in their breasts Judy s benign, Brenda s malignant The two sisters came back together shortly before the possibility of permanent loss became very real In her uniquely lyrical and poignant style, Goldman deftly navigates past events and present emotions, drawing rea
Losing My Sister A Memoir Family stories grow to be bigger than the experiences themselves writes Judy Goldman in her memoir Losing My Sister They become home to us tell us who we are who we want to be Over the years they
You have a pretty good hint in the very beginning of how Judy is going to lose her sister, but the bulk of this book is about losing your sister another way through misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and resentments.Judy and Brenda and big brother Donald grow up in Rock Hill, SC, just over the state line from Charlotte, NC where they all end up and seemed to have a pretty idyllic childhood, with loving parents, a beautiful house they had a working fireplace in their childhood bedroom and neighbor [...]
This is a strange review for me to write, because I am related by marriage to Brenda, the older sister that author Judy Goldman loved and struggled with While I know some of the people that are described in the book, I was amazed by how much I didn t know and perhaps that s a good thing I hate that they caused each other so much pain even though they loved one another so much Perhaps this line from near the end of the memoir sums up the story of their family dynamic Everything is always complic [...]
What can I say The intimate, honest and compassionate voice of the author welcomes you into a story that is both universal and unique Goldman and her sister were allies and nemeses at the same time The reader feels invited to join in the great love affair of this sibling relationship It would have been easier to either stick to the ways in which the author adored and worshiped her sister or write a scathing condemnation of wrongs committed Instead, Goldman trusts herself and her reader enough to [...]
I generally don t trust memoirs, but this one feels extraordinarily honest I believe it It s THE great subject, too family if you ve got one, you ll relate Wonderfully written, too Highly recommended.Memoir lovers, read Losing My Sister Memoir writers, go to school on it.
Deeply moving and beautifully crafted work on family, love, and loss Could not put it down
I won this book through a giveaway.The memoir chronicles family tragedy the death of parents and the long battle with cancer that the author s older sister suffers Through all this, Goldman incorporates vignettes of memory from childhood that help define the two sisters as adults one is the strong one and one is the meek and sweet one As they become adults, these roles chafe against each other, and their relationship suffers because of it It s only shortly before the death of her older sister th [...]
I think the author used the writing of this book as a way to come to terms with the death of her sister Along the way, I think she learned about herself as a person also And I guess the part I don t understand is the fact that these two women loved each other as only sisters can still had major differences I am so glad that before her sister died they were able to resolve their differences.I myself can t imagine not getting along with my sister but I can with my brothers There were 4 of us with [...]
Here s a must read for anyone trying to cope with life in general and difficult families and serious illness in particular Judy Goldman s work as a poet shines through with crisp, animated prose from chapter one I was most impressed with her artful restraint Her topic losing her sister to breast cancer , sibling rivalry and slippery family dynamics could have lapsed into melodrama Instead, Judy cuts to the heart of the matter, offers a compelling and, in the end, joyful tale of one family s stru [...]
I was lucky to receive an advanced copy of this book from the publisher through a giveaway You know when you read a book titled Losing My Sister it s going to be sad, and it was, though not the way I imagined Judy Goldman documents her lifelong relationship with her older sister Brenda in a way that is contemplative and poetic I highlighted many insights that were particularly profound Parts of their relationship remind me of me and my sister, and some of it I wish for my own daughters to experi [...]
i read this book before i lost my own sister a year later, so i identified with what the author was going through unfortunately, goldman d had a difficult relationship with her sister before the illness and subsequent death, which made the whole story much poignant while it s a moving account of second chances and redemptive love, the main thing i love about this book is the beautiful prose style of the author absolutely stunning
A moving memoir The reader feels so many emotions reading this book the joy the sisters share growing up in a small town, the love of a family unit and the despair of sibling fallout Author photographs add to the memoir and enhance the efforts to show the true bond between sisters Beautifully written, it leaves the reader with a sense of family spirit.
Skimmed through this book at the library Tedious and dull I dont understand why two women in the latter days of childrearing, facing middle age, ageing parents and their own health issues would spend so much time bickering Sad and pointless Also a pointless book.
LOVED this book It takes place near my hometown of Gastonia, NC From beginning to end, I loved hearing what these sisters went through, how they reacted and what happended in the end It was a wonderful book to read You will enjoy it, too, especially if you do have a sister
Well written and emotional.
Any memoir by a poet is worth reading, and Judy Goldman s does not disappoint A moving read for anyone with a sister.
A lovely book about sisters and life The writing is wonderful If anyone wants to know how to write a memoir, this is your primer I so look forward to Judy s next one Do I really have to wait until 2019
Touching telling of sisters relationship, from birth to death.
It was ok